Wife Mood Swing

Fellow daddies, do your wife experience mood swings and pick on you over nitty gritty things such as how we care for babies and over household chores? Some days wife is in good mood, some days moody show me attitude or bad mood. Our baby daughter is 4 Months+ old, could it be mood swing resulting from take care of Baby day & night, not having enough sleep and stress from take care of Baby? Often I am said not helping enough and that she is doing all the stuff, I do help out 2 to 3 of the tasks but not all, sometimes after doing the chores if it's not up to her expectation also getting nagged. Whatever I do, it seems she is just not satisfied nor up to her expectation, then she would do that task herself and nag me again for not contributing enough. Seriously I don't know what to do but feel neglected as a hubby sometimes. Am I asking too much? Or I am just not doing enough as a hubby?

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As a woman I feel your plight. Although I might be my husband’s culprit myself hurhurhur. Please bear with us. I am sure your wife is secretly (or even openly) guilty as charged. At least that’s how I feel with my situation. The mood swings, yes, can derive from super lack of sleep, plus stress of thinking about E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G else it’s really tiring to the core...... My lack of sleep is also due to my husband’s persistent snoring. Oh well. Having a nag at the spouse as an outlet, although it’s really frowned upon, it does mean you are her safe space. Her ally. See if she nags other people, I think no, right? Please remember that this is the same woman you have loved and wedded. Remind yourself that. Remind HER of the sweet moments and hopefully that can bring her monstrous self back to the gutter. And have s**. Haha...

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2y ago

Yes, she doesn't nag at other ppls except me, which makes me feel even more targeted. But after your explanation, I do understand I am her safe space. Thanks!

Yes. And i think it is ok as long as she feels better because I understand she is feeling very uncomfortable with baby inside. She also have very bad morning and night sickness so this is the least I can do to commit. After she gave birth to our first, she is even stressed up as no we are taking care of our baby ourselves. So I let her heal fully first. She'll be in good mood when she feels better. So no rush. But she still tries her best to help around so it's give and take. It's the Caring part that plays an important role. Who knows it is us one day who can't walk or feed ourselves nxt time, our wife will be the one who'll help us and stay by our side. So now we just need to be patient.

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2y ago

Thanks! I just try to make small quick talks with her whenever I can.

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Try to talk to her nicely. Tell her how u really feel, slow talk with her to understand what she wants. If she is a stay at home mum, its not easy. Taking care of LO for the whole day is indeed more tiring than working. I wish i was working instead of stay at home. Mothers are generally more particular abt their babies cause they care. Don't worry abt it.

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I'm a mummy and I do nag at my husband cause I'm really tiring from day and night care for my baby.. baby is 4month plus too.. hahahaa.. I really need to sleep well and recharge so meanwhile I'm like a crazy women nagging my hubby for everything.. but I'm more of a vocal person so.. I do sit and talk to feel better

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2y ago

Thanks, I will try to be more tolerant. Just depressing at times sometimes.

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This is my current situation. I do this to my hubby as well. We had a talk where he mentioned he was feeling underappreciated. And that he was overwhelmed with work too. I realised that we were both stressed out and after the talk everything was better. So do communicate with ur wife.

2y ago

Thanks, yea have talk to wife. Communication is very important, just that our priority and focus now daily is on baby and work, leaving little time for both ourselves.

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Yes, I do that to my husb sometimes.. Makes me feel a bit guilty after reading your post

Hope things are better after talking to her!

2y ago

Yes had feel better after talks whenever we can thanks!