Name Calling and Bullying

Question

Is it my fault to take it personally na ung sa side ni Hubs always called my daughter na Batang Mataray shes only 5years old. And lately nya lang nakilala ang relatives ni Hubs. My lo doesnt like kissing and cuddling other people because that what I thought her, ayaw ko may mag take advantage sa kanya in the near future. But these relatives, vinaviolate si lo. Hinahaltak sabay hugs na mahigpit. Kaya nagagalit si lo. Kahit sabihan na namin sila ganon pa din sila. Then etong mga pinsan nya sobrang bully lalo na ung pinaka matanda. Laging tinatawag na pango si lo, tapos pag sumasali si lo. Sinasabi nya na wag daw sumali. Pinapalabas sa bahay nila.Dumating sa point na umiiyak si lo, tinatanong nya ko kung ano daw ba ang mataray? Mataray daw ba sya Napuno na ko kaya sinabi ko na wag na makipaglaro, at wag na pumunta duon. Tapos minasama nila, sila pa ang galit.

Candice Venturanza · Answer

theres nothing wrong with you teaching your child boundaries. its perfectly ok if she doesnt want to kiss and hug relatives. just say that you taught her that way. no need to apologize. to pacify them, maybe teach your child how to make conversation with grown-ups para kahit hindi man siya malambing with them, she can still spend time with them.with the bully, i would tell the mom hanggang marindi na siya sa kakasabi ko ng mga ginagawa ng anak niya. or if i catch that pinsan, i would say na that what shes doing/saying isnt nice.but yeah, i would lessen muna the time spent with them. i mean if they are not welcoming your child, whats the point.