Hi dear, thank you for sharing. Hearing your thoughts, you seem to be very seriously considering to keep this baby. If you do decide on that, I applaud you for your courage. ❤️ You’ve raised 2 very important points, 1) it’s tough being a single mum, 2) you don’t know if you can give your baby a good life.
For 1), it is indeed tougher than having a partner that is involved and loving towards you and the baby. But the phrase “it takes a village to raise a child” is also true. If your parents are willing to support you and help you, that would be wonderful for both you and your child. The love from people who truly invest their lives in the baby is worth way more than a man who doesn’t care about the baby or is willing to give up things for the baby. Aside from your parents, there are many avenues for help and support, both financially and child care. Yes, you’ll need to be prudent with how you spend. Yes, your life will change and your focus will be completely different from that of a single lady, but if you treasure the baby, this little human being can bring you more joy than you ever thought possible. Never be ashamed or shy to receive help, and to build good support systems, especially when things are hard. There are many people who are willing to be there for you:)
For 2), what is a “good life” for a child? When I look at my children, I think the thing that they’ve asked for the most is to be loved. It’s not gifts or luxuries, or even a lot of food. Providing for them and trying to get them a comfortable life is something that many of us may strive to do, but if the children are neglected in the process of parents earning money, that’s not a “good life” to the kids either. I believe that every parent has the ability to give their child a good life, and to teach their child what is good (morals) and what’s important in life.
Regardless of your decision at the end of the day, I hope you make the choice that gives you peace, with no regrets. Because both decisions require courage and action on your part. Both decisions will affect you physically and emotionally.
As for the guy, let him know your decision, even if it goes against his wishes. I know you didn’t intend to meet him for a 2nd date, but I guess as the blood-related father, he should know... and decide whether he wants to invest his life in this baby’s life (if you’re keeping this baby). Of course, if he’s not going to be committed or help, you may want to just ask him to carry on with his life and you carry on with yours.
Just prayed for you, hoping you will soon find clarity in making the best decision, and that you will have peace and joy. If you do decide to keep the baby, this community is always here to support you through the pregnancy and even raising your child:)
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