Hi everyone How do u all cope going back to work after your maternity? Its been a year since ive given birth and i am still dragging my self to work. This year alone ive taken 7 days of mc. 3 days if it is bcause im really sick and another 4 is bcause i want to be at home with my kid. My husband is always overseas and everytime i tried talking to him about this,he will just laugh it off. i just want to be at home and be with my kid. everytime i will feel sad and bad leaving my kid when im off to work.How do i motivate myself to go back to work? I really need to work as we need the money for the house and expenses.

Hey, I feel for you. Sometimes, we all get stuck in a situation where we feel being trapped from all the sides. But as they say, there is always a door that has a bright Sun, and all that is required is to find that door and open it. I think, for you also, all you need to do see that door. I can understand the sadness that you feel leaving your baby back, but at the same time, you are not able to see the bright side which your working is bringing to your home. And you are not able to see this is, because till now you are not pressed for money. Once if you quit your job, you will be physically be available for your baby but mentally your mind will waver all the time, because then you will all time be thinking of ways to make money. And you will become stressed over the period of time because of lack of money. So, the proximity that you want now with your baby will still not be there, because your mind will be wavering. I suggest, see the brighter side of things and be happy and tell yourself that there cannot be any other better way than this for now. And if there is a possibility of work from home which will make money for you, you can try that too. But understand that work from home requires much more dedication than an office going job. And that may mean lesser time and attention for the baby than what you are giving currently. Speak to your husband and save money so that in future at least you both can save enough so that you guys can spend most of your all time together. Good luck!