problem with in law

Hi everyone I have an issue with my in law. 4 years ago,when my lo was only a few months old, my husband n i had a huge fight. This is regarding my mother in law. Although it was not really her fault but she was partly to blame. The fight was so bad,that i pick up a knife a wanted to kill myself. This fight happen in front of everyone( my husband family only). After that fight,everyone from his side block my call and whatapp messages. My mil helped to take care of my lo during that time, but due to the incident,she refuse to take care of my lo and my husband didnt bother to help in finding an alternative. Eventually (current situation)everything was ok and back to normal except: 1. My mil still block my number. If she need to talk to me,she will call my house phone or my husband. Same goes for me,i will call my fil or their house phone. 2. My sil wont bother to reply to any msg that i send to her. She will only msg me when necessary. She and my mil will give each other looks when i scold my lo in front of them. She has just given birth to her lo and she dont really like it if i were to carry him or play with him. She did not specifically say it but her body language is very obvious. What would u all do? I want to be closer to my in laws but its hard if im being treated this way. Ive tried to do things in their favour,even my husband sees it. But he will only tell me just let them be.

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I am in a similar situation whereby all that i do for my in laws, is never good enough. My parents in law prioritise my SIL children over mine and they are not afraid to show it. I have brought this issue up with my husband many times and we've fought a lot about it too. All he could say was to let them be. As much as i understand how hard it is for husbands to be torn between their mothers and wives but believe me when i say that it still hurts. I kinda came to my own resolution which isnt easy but Im trying. I simple give up bending over backwards for them. I still speak to them respectfully when i see them but i keep interactions/visits to what is required. Fights with my husband on such issue is declining and whats most important is my state of emotions and mind isnt suffering anymore. I believe that ultimately as mothers we need to take care and prioritise the happiness of our little family and ourselves first. No point trying so hard to make other people happy but we suffer. Hope that helps. Dont beat yourself up too much about it. Hugs!

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6y ago

Thanks for sharing and positive thought.

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