Don't know am I alone or is this normal. The entire pregnancy we didn't make love till our lo is born and almost 13mo we had less than the amount of a hand. Since the last session till to date it been 3months. He never once initiate to make love since pregnancy till now. Am always the one who asked for it and 101% I didn't get what I want. Was always rejected by him. Tried to dress sexy, make the baby sleep before he come home, etc. With all the efforts all I get was the same old excuses, if dress sexily = why waste money on such stuff( ok it's my money), it's all about WORK every single time and honestly am sick and tired of hearing it. Sexually frustrated and feeling hurt deep down. All this plus taking care of a kid isn't easy at all. All this add up to me being nasty, short temper, easily angry. But he don't know... We have tried to speak ALOT of times about this issue often me ended up crying and it's always the same old repeating reasons. Feeling lost...

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I'm sorry you're feeling really frustrated and it must be difficult for you. Firstly, if you are really sexually frustrated and your husband is not interested, perhaps you can "help yourself" for the time being just to get some release. No shame in that -- it is obviously affecting you and if there is a quick fix then why not? After that has been settled, you have to find a way to get through to your husband. Find a time to just talk to him. Don't immediately jump into the topic of sex, start with something neutral like kids, work and then slowly branch into what's bothering him. I think he is feeling as lost as you are. Don't give up on him.

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