In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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Im so relieved to see so many mummies in the same boat. have such an irritating mil too! & alr foresaw probs with her even b4 bb was born, given her character likes to find fault with ppl… thinks that shes very experienced having taken care of 4 grandkids before but i have seen a few instances when she did things that made me ??? e.g. wear my bb diaper so low until can see butt crack idk wanna cry or laugh.. Fine i try to close one eye cuz who doesn’t makes mistakes but she likes to harp/ emphasize on mine whenever she has the chance. N it doesnt help that my husband worships her, everything she does is right. He dotes on our bb but idk why his mom ego is more important?? My mom may be far less experienced but im so much happier whenever its her duty day, she respects and does things the way we want for our bb & doesnt make irritating comments. She insists not to take the childcare allowance but is alw punctual, alw ask if theres anything to do & finish her “duties” eg washing bottles before going home… so unlike the mil -.-

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