In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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I'm having the same issues with you too mummy. My mil involved in my confinement. My confinement was terrible as she've created so much stress to me by telling me every morning 'milk not enough milk not enough'. My milk level was dropped from 120ml to 20ml within a week because of the stress given by her. My LO was drinking 90ml for the first 2 weeks and on the third week of my LO, I seriously not sure what happen to my mil, she gave my LO 150ml! I get shocked with the sudden increased of my LO milk. Not only that, in my confinement, she also keep quarreling with me by saying I made her very uncomfortable and didn't trust her way in taking care my LO. Before my LO 1 month old, she keep letting my LO sit on her leg, on the bed and even on the sofa. I've tell her to stop this as this will affect my LO backbone. I clarified this with my mother and also do some Internet search before telling this to her. She get mad with me and say 'why need to listen to your mom? If you don't trust me then ask your mom to come over and help you take care your LO. No need to search Internet, no need to listen to doctor. I got 4sons you thought I don't know how to take care baby?' I really feel like omg to my mil attitude..... Not only that, when my LO is not feeling well, my mil ask me to give my LO to drink talisman! Eeeeeee my LO was only 2mo and she asked me to to that!! Seriously the experience with my mil is not good. If I was given a chance I will not ask for the help from my mil. My relationship with my mil is not good all the while and after my delivery, the relationship with her become worst.

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