In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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Sorry to say, but I’ve anticipated such problems long ago. So despite having such a tough time now just handling our daughter alone, and no matter how nice my in laws are and kept insisting that they can help to take care…we’ve remained adamant and stayed through to just handling her ourselves. So I see where you’re coming from, and can only say, do what both of you have discussed and agreed on. End of the day the 2 of you are the parents, and are the ones who will be taking care of your child’s every need and problem. Don’t let other people run your plans for you, no matter how close the ties. For us, we opted to delay having a child until we got our own place. And now as work starts to resume on full scale, we are opting to put her to infant care when we get too busy. People may argue that the environment is not better than a family’s home etc etc. But what you pay for you can demand (not unreasonably of course 😆), and when what you expect is not met you can put up an argument. But when you bring family into such a situation, relationships can be broken from such.

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