In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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I disagree that granny is better with babies. Yes though it’s painful to see babies tend to fall sick when they socialise, my BB learns way better in ifc. His Teachers constantly update us on his progress in sch. I know he’s safe there and not fed with things I disapprove of. The $500-$600 that I pay to ifc is going to be the same if I let my mil looks after BB. My BB really enjoys sch a lot, always smiling when I send/pick him up. What I really like is he is sociable and his friend misses him when he misses sch. At least he’s building his immunity earlier than most of his peers, that’s how I comfort myself for sending him to ifc. Most importantly I don’t need to worry about his safety when I’m at work. My mil, hopeless. Now she’s already complaining that my BB sleeps a lot. She only took care of older children mostly and when the child “abused” her, she only complains to us but never did quit her job. Example, the child used a roller chair and rolled over her leg. She only chided him for doing so and her leg is swollen and the employer just act like it’s nothing. So from this I wouldn’t be ok for mil to look after.

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