In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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I can relate mommy. So hard to deal with MIL's who think they are always right and much better than us in terms of taking good care of babies. Keep on imposing their parenting style that is not timely and not reliable already. So stressful on our part as a mother. I lost my trust on MIL after she gave water (more than 2 ml) to my 2 months old little one even if she's fully aware that it's not advisable. Me and my husband already told her before she did that but still follow her own decision without consulting us. By that, she disrespects our parenting decision. After that, I realized that I cannot fully intrust my baby to MIL. Even simple instruction cannot follow. So why I compromised my baby's safety and security. I was so devastated that time. I even cried coz I can't imagine what might happen to my baby. Anyway, I am widely open for suggestions from my MIL but not to the point that she should insist to do this, to do that. If I think it is good for my baby, then go.. but if it's not, I won't consider it. I always put on my mind that "My child, my rule". Lately, my MIL keep on telling that we'll now introduce solid foods like gerber, cerelac to my baby which I strongly disagree. I am totally not in favor of introducing baby processed foods on my babys' first intake of solid foods. I am an advocate to a homemade fresh fruits and veggies for my baby. Right now, I don't really see enough reason to allow my baby to eat processed foods at her young age. Anything processed is consider junk foods which is not good for the health of the babies. Right now, I give up everything..my work, my wildest dreams, my whole self just to take good care of our baby which is not supposedly our (my hubby) plan after giving birth. I sacrifice my whole life just to raise our baby based on our own parenting wishes and decisions and I know this is best decision I've ever made in my entire life. Also, I believe that to sacrifice for the sake of our baby is part of parenthood. Just do our part and everything will fall to its right place. I know its gonna be worth it after all. By God's grace. Salute to all supermommies. A real-life hero. Kudos!

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