Does your hubby follow you to all appointments?

Currently still in 1st trimester. I went to most of the appointments by myself as I did not want my husband to worry and in fact didn't tell him when I go for some of the follow ups. Recently he was angry when he found out that I went to the appt by myself and didn't inform him (actually he won't go as well but just wanted to know). But he doesn't know that each visit is stressful for me as idk if baby is doing well or if there's anything. I didn't want to stress him out too and rather be independent.

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I think it's great that your husband actively wants to be involved. Share with him your fears, and let him come along if he could. This way, he will also feel more connected with the baby. The last thing you want is for him to feel like he's not needed, and that end up translating into him not being proactive with taking care of the baby after the child is born.

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My hubby went to almost all appointments, unless couldn’t because of work. Your husband may be upset because it’s his baby too and he also has emotions even if he doesn’t show it. Better to be honest with him, otherwise when the baby is born will you also hide information about the baby from him if you are worried? That’s not healthy…

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We didn't talk about it.. He just automatically goes with me for all my appointments. I guess it's easier for him too as he's self-employed so his schedule is flexible. I would be fine going by my own as well. But I think it would be nice to just let him know when you're going.

My husband follows to every single appt. As he should. Even if theres bad news, atleast im not alone and my husband is there for me. He’s always there to listen to my paranoia and always comfort me tell me everything’s gonna be fine.

I went to all the appts and scans myself too but husband is aware. I don't blame him for not attending with me because he is working overseas and I choose to give birth here. he can't be flying back everytime there is appt

I think it depends on each individual couple. I'm having my second one, husband doesn't accompany me to Rach appt as we are saving leave, but I'll always put it in the family calendar to keep him in the loop :)

Yes! My husband follows me to every appointment because he wants to be involved and ensure my safety when getting there. He also feels very excited to see our baby’s growth and progression in every visits.

I am just like you, I feel that it is fine to go to appointments alone. Sometimes the husband has to work and it is totally okay. Not every appointment must be accompanied. 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

My husband attended every single appointments with me. The bare minimum that you could do is to let him know there is an upcoming appointment, let him decide if he wants to attend with you.

Yess my hub did for all appts..mayb u can share w ur hub on next upcoming appt and see if he is keen to visit with you and at the same time highlight the reason u didn’t share ..