Can a baby really help me connect again with my husband? I feel we need something in common to focus on.

I wouldn't use my baby as a pawn to salvage a dying relationship because it could turn out both ways. It could be for the better, or worsen the relationship. Both parents will experience a considerable amount of stress when the baby is born and it is common for loving parents to argue. I would suggest building up the relationship first before deciding to have a child. Do see a marriage counsellor. There are places which provide this service. Fei Yue http://www.fycs.org/index.cfm?GPID=25 Care Corner http://www.carecorner.org.sg/cccc.html