My baby does not like to be around strangers

My baby will always cry when strangers carry her ever since she was about 6 months old. Now that she’s 14 months old, it gets worse. She’ll cry murder when someone carries her. Sometimes she’ll allow her grandparents to carry her, but sometimes no. She only wants either me or my hubby. It worries me because i’m scared this will prolong and she doesn’t want to socialise. Is this a phase or that’s just how she is?

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Personally i think this is pretty normal and great. Safety first because sometimes the child hasnt built the trust with the adult or vice versa and of course mood comes into play. My baby is at 14 months too and very similar! But she is assertive and can communicate 'no' or 'scared' when needed and we listen to her and respect her boundaries so very secure attachment. She can leave us without worry and come back during play or even in public area. She even goes up to strangers to 'talk' or interact and steps back when flagging out danger e.g. random auntie wants to kiss etc. Very very very appropriate response and i respond in kind by acknowledging ' are u feeling scared? im here beside u/u are safe. we can talk/approach to that person together or 'we can say no' Secretly proud of her because this is age appropriate still and i really dont care if people try to say not sociable or respectful. A child or baby doesnt have to please others. It will get better so continue building trust by listening, understanding, responding. One day the child will not be dependent when he or she is ready so dont worry and dont force it. By then u probably can explore tricky behaviours (not stranger danger, thats abit stereotypical) and teach seeking help from a trusted adult. In essence, its a phase and it will get better. A sticky child who feels safe will yield an independent child someday!

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