Comments from Husband's family

Anyone encountered such situation? Am I too petty or emotional? Currently at 3rd week PP - natural birth. Went through close to 20 hrs of labor & had 2nd degree tear. Recovery took quite a while and husband's family often will see that my husband is taking care of the baby during the day since I'm in confinement and in pain - they will make unnecessary comments like "the dad is better at taking care of the baby" "the baby is mostly taken care of by the dad - he is good at handling". This really irks me and pissed me off. I still diligently Pumped every 2 hrs so baby can have breastmilk as she doesn't want to latch much, and then every night I will carry her whenever she cries. In the day I will help out also with my husband for baby's shower and feeds. My husband is really wonderful I admit, in terms of helping out and stuffs, but I really hates it when these unnecessary comments were made and I will cry, thinking that I am actually not doing a good job and as if the mother doesn't play a part at all?

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Don’t take it too hard upon urself! I experienced slightly similar situation and when they start comparing us with other FTM…this is inevitable.. sharing some quotes here to keep u going. “Motherhood is an act of infinite optimism” and “successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled, they are the ones that never give up despite the struggles”. These day to day experiences are part of the struggles, I’ve been telling myself as well to learn to live with it and let it go.

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Home Birthclub: October 2023 anyone encountered such situation i too petty emotional currently 3rd week