Feeling suffocated

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Ako lang ba yung nasasakal Nako sa biyenan ko, sobrang selan nya and Over thinker . parang lage nyang Ini insist yung way nya ng pagpapalake ng anak nya, Iba iba naman ang bata at alam ko naman bawat kibot ng anak ko kung may Mali. Pag sinasabi ko na ganto kaya yan ganto, parang di sya maniniwala  . Ipipilit nya yung gusto nya, na baka nilalagnat anak ko kasi ganan na , Ganon  Basta Ang Oa lang, Neto lang nag ngingipin anak ko at nagkasabay tigdas nya, So basically Wala naman daw gamot sa Tigdas at sa pag ngingipin Nilalagnat lang at pag tatae  Pero parang Kung ano ano na naiisip nya, Like dun sa Tigdas hangin, napa punta na sa pagkabulag .. parang huh? bat naman mabubulag anak ko, at kita ko naman kung malala ba or what . Pag nandto lang talaga ako sa kanya talaga , nasasakal ako pero pag anndon ako sa side ko, Hinahayaan naman ako ng nanay ko kung ano gawen ko sa anak ko  which is okay na okay sakin. Madame pang Instances na Pag may naramdaman anak ko pag sinabe Kong Dahil po yan sa ganto, Hindu sya naniniwala like hello? Ako nag aalaga ,24/7, alam ko bawal kibot ng anak ko . Nararamdaman ko na ndi ako nirerespeto nilang ina nung bata, Ini invalidate lahat ng sinasabe ko pag tungkol na sa anak ko , Kanina Nabulunan lang Saglit yunh anak ko which is Lage naman nangyare sa 1 yr old Lalo pag madame nakakain,   Tignan na daw lalamunan silipin kung mapula baka daw di maka lunok or what . Alam ko namamg nag care lang si mama pero nakaka sakal lang,  lage nalang kase .Miski pag iyak ng anak ko, pag narinig nya Lalo ss madaling araw talagang takbo nasya pataas like di na pwedeng nanaginip lang hahaha or gutom kaya ititimpla Kong dede . Lageng akong kinukweston bakt naiyak, parang ano ko nanny? masamang umiyak anak ko sa piling ko? may nagawa bakong Mali? Hys Kakasakal.Share ko lang

Millennial Ina · Answer

Hi momsh.I THINK youre overly emotional because you cant communicate your feelings well in fear na baka ma-offend mo sila.Had the same experience and feelings with my MIL and AIL.I tried to calmly explain lahat, until nag build up na lahat ng emotions ko, natatarayan ko na sila at isang tanong isang sagot na ako.So 1 day when I heard them talking about my daughters weight (because it was their topic lately - as in for days) I talked to MIL about it, I told myself its now or never, at sinabi ko na masama ang loob ko about it, I even cried dahil sa sama ng loob ko.Although she didnt seem to understand me as a mother and acknowledge their actions and words as offending and hurtful, and the other topics werent resolve, we did came into an agreement na lahat ng mafi-feel ko ay sasabihin ko because shes like my 2nd mother, she have the right to know at ayoko magdala ng sama ng loob while living in the same roof with them.And I also told them na wag na paulit-ulit.So I guess, if you can and if you build up enough courage to talk to them regarding an issue (yes, 1 issue at a time), do so.If not, you will continue to carry these feelings and eventually lalayo ang loob niyo sa isat isa dahil naipon na lahat ng sama ng loob mo.As of now, Im teaching myself to forgive me and them, even if they didnt ask for it, to have peace of mind and peaceful heart. And learning to continue to voice out my feelings without fearing na baka ma-offend ko sila.