Havana Aibara, India

mother of 2

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How does one deal with sibling rivalry? My son is 9 and daughter is 5.
I guess, the best thing to do is engage your kids in more and more group activities. Make them two be a part of activities where they have to work as a team. And when they will work as a team, their b
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Well..all siblings keep fighting with each other and that's normal unless there is a clear indication of jealousy and hatred. Always treat both of them equally. Never let the older child feel that "
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My daughter suffers from asthma since the age of 9 months. She has had 2 major attacks till date wherein she had to be hospitalised. What changes can i make to control the occurrence of the attacks?
Firstly, you should be well aware of the triggers whether its dust, pollen, any food items, change in surroundings. Secondly always carry her inhaler and make her inhale even at the slightest of whee
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Being too lenient in parenting could lead to problems for kids in the long run,hence the phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child". Sometimes we do have to raise hands on the child. Where do we draw
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giving a bit of a slap or small whack as a one off case is fine, as long as your child does not get hurt. but whatever the situation, from a personal experience, i have realised that a direct talk
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I think, patience is the key to deal with a child or would say with anyone. More so, with children because they have tender little hearts and are experiencing every thing for the first time. My elder
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Obviously beating black and blue at every small mistake of the child will make you an abusive parent! One light spank in the back won't! But disciplining can be done without raising hands too!
My wife is over obsessive with my 13 month old son in every aspect. Even while potty training she puts the pot on the bed lest he should tip over and hurt himself if he was on the floor. How do I get
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it is true that most moms are super careful with their babies, especially in case of the first born. in fact, even i was like that with my first born, though maybe not to the extent you mentioned your
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Some moms are really ultra careful and mollycoddle their kids! Tell your wife that by doing so she is making the life of your son difficult. This way he will never learn things. While growing up he
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I have a 4 year old son who goes to a primary school. We are a gujarati family with liberal religious views.We have not emphasized about god or religion to him.One day he came back from school and tol
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So expose ur kids to all gods is my theory , ive taken my daughter to temples, churches, mosques and i tell her all god is one.also i think u should speak to the class teacher to avoid making such sta
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You must talk to school management
You must connect with the school about this matter. Explain this entire event to management and let them decide for the further effects, but make sure to keep an eye on such kind of things again happe
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i think you should talk to the school right away. no school should give any preference or attention towards religious tendencies of any form. the fact that your child is being put through religious
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You need to talk to the school authorities immediately. A school is secular place where kids should be made to believe that all religions are equal. The concerned teacher needs to be talked to.
Is it too much to expect my husband to look after the baby when she cries in night time?
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Not at all, because he also played a part in the conceiving part and it is his daddy responsibility to take care of the child too. Then again, I remember my hubby ever reminded me that while I tended
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nope. in fact, if your hubby isn't home the entire day and you take care of the baby alone, it is important he takes care of the baby at least for some time in the night, so that you can get some time
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Absolutely not. Rather, being the father or being the person in the room, he should be anyway helping you with chores of the baby. I do understand that if your husband is working and has to go to offi
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Not at all! A baby is the responsibility of both the parents. Unfortunately, somewhere there is an "unwritten rule" that only the mother should take care of the baby at night and not the father. Ot
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Sometimes I feel like I am a lousy mother. Is it normal?
we are all lousy at times, especially with so much multi-tasking and planning that we do for the home, the hubby, the kids and work. don't worry. we all have those off days when nothing seems perfe
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Yes, feelings like these keep coming up every now and then. You know how it is with our mood and days. Some days, you feel good, pumped up, happy and there are days you feel sad and de-motivated. Same
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No mother is perfect. Every mother has her own strengths and flaws. Do not underestimate yourself as a mother. You are doing the best you can.
My 11 year old daughter has been taunted by some classmates for being a non-vegetarian for a while now. She has become very distressed and has stopped eating meat completely. I am shocked and don't kn
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It is disgusting that now kids are being bullied and looked down upon for their eating preferences. I think you should meet the teacher in the school and immediately bring up this thing in their notic
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i think you should go to the school and talk to the principal, and if allowed, speak to the concerned kids in front of the principal. kids can be really cruel and spiteful. having veg or non-veg is
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Well..I have faced that too! I was raised in a largely vegetarian place where non-vegetarians were looked down upon. You should tell your daughter that every person and family has their own food
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My baby is due for a vaccination in a couple of day but she has been unwell and has a temperature too. Should I still get he vaccinated?
No. When the baby is not well you are not supposed to go for vaccination. Once the baby is perfectly fine you can visit the doctor. Because before vaccinating the baby the doctor checks the baby tempe
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Please consult the doc first as they might know better about this. Personally, I would suggest to wait for a few days before getting her vaccinated.
First get baby to doctor and let the examination done after the results doctor will be the right who can take the decision whether baby is well to have vaccinated or not. In General if the temperature
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no wait for her to get completely well and be rested for some time before getting her the vaccination. also inform the doc about the same and take an appointment accordingly.
No. Wait for her illness to pass. Bcoz depending on the vaccines, she will get fever. Tht puts her system on a toss. So a delay of a few days won't do any harm. Still if u r in doubt then talk to ur p
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I am having a second baby.My 6 year old daughter wants to know "how babies are born". Kids are too smart these days to accept the story of the stork. What should I do?
you don't have to explain to your child about the entire process, but you can always say that when two grown-ups decide to stay together as a family, as mamma papa, most of the time they want to bring
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Right now keep it simple. All kids have this question and nowadays kids don't buy the fairy story at all! Tell her that there is a tiny cell in mom's tummy which eventually grows into a baby. As
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Though, we know and teach kids that we should not lie, but in situations like such, we have to tell them something that's not true as there is an appropriate age to give children certain information.
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