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How does one deal with sibling rivalry? My son is 9 and daughter is 5.

Well..all siblings keep fighting with each other and that's normal unless there is a clear indication of jealousy and hatred. Always treat both of them equally. Never let the older child feel that "you are the elder one and hence you have to adjust." Similarly never give all the importance to one child. Never compare. Always have a positive communication.

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My daughter suffers from asthma since the age of 9 months. She has had 2 major attacks till date wherein she had to be hospitalised. What changes can i make to control the occurrence of the attacks?

Firstly, you should be well aware of the triggers whether its dust, pollen, any food items, change in surroundings. Secondly always carry her inhaler and make her inhale even at the slightest of wheeze. Your doctor might be able to tell you more about the precautions.

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Being too lenient in parenting could lead to problems for kids in the long run,hence the phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child". Sometimes we do have to raise hands on the child. Where do we draw the line as we do not want to labelled as abusive parents? Suggestions please.

Obviously beating black and blue at every small mistake of the child will make you an abusive parent! One light spank in the back won't! But disciplining can be done without raising hands too!

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My wife is over obsessive with my 13 month old son in every aspect. Even while potty training she puts the pot on the bed lest he should tip over and hurt himself if he was on the floor. How do I get rid of her obsessive behaviour?

Some moms are really ultra careful and mollycoddle their kids! Tell your wife that by doing so she is making the life of your son difficult. This way he will never learn things. While growing up he will fall and hurt and later emotionally also get hurt. She should allow him to deal with all these on his own. Take her to a counselor if she is not ready to listen to you!

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I have a 4 year old son who goes to a primary school. We are a gujarati family with liberal religious views.We have not emphasized about god or religion to him.One day he came back from school and told us there is only 1 god and that is Allah.When asked,he said his teacher who is Muslim told him that. We do not want to make a big deal about it but he keeps saying this often.What do I do?

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You must talk to school management

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Is it too much to expect my husband to look after the baby when she cries in night time?

Not at all! A baby is the responsibility of both the parents. Unfortunately, somewhere there is an "unwritten rule" that only the mother should take care of the baby at night and not the father. Other than feeding, the father can do everything else.

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Sometimes I feel like I am a lousy mother. Is it normal?

No mother is perfect. Every mother has her own strengths and flaws. Do not underestimate yourself as a mother. You are doing the best you can.

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My 11 year old daughter has been taunted by some classmates for being a non-vegetarian for a while now. She has become very distressed and has stopped eating meat completely. I am shocked and don't know what to do. Please help.

It is disgusting that now kids are being bullied and looked down upon for their eating preferences. I think you should meet the teacher in the school and immediately bring up this thing in their notice so that they take action. As far your kids are concerned make them understand that no one is good or bad or can be looked down upon because of what they eat or do not eat. Boost their confidence so that they are not bogged down by such stupid inferences.

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My baby is due for a vaccination in a couple of day but she has been unwell and has a temperature too. Should I still get he vaccinated?

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Please consult the doc first as they might know better about this. Personally, I would suggest to wait for a few days before getting her vaccinated.

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I am having a second baby.My 6 year old daughter wants to know "how babies are born". Kids are too smart these days to accept the story of the stork. What should I do?

Right now keep it simple. All kids have this question and nowadays kids don't buy the fairy story at all! Tell her that there is a tiny cell in mom's tummy which eventually grows into a baby. As she grows up, you can give her age-appropriate explanation.

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