Infant care or family?

Hello working mummies! Do you guys intend to send your babies to infant care or to your in-laws post your maternity leave? Any sharing of past experience on which is a better option for you is most welcomed!

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Decision to send baby to IFC was made even before I gave birth. Took extended maternity leave for another 1.5 months before sending my babygirl to IFC when she was 4 months old. No doubt she kept falling sick; first few weeks was tough. Mum guilt and all, but got to have faith (and trust) the caregivers/teachers. I don’t trust my MIL to care for my baby cause she doesn’t know how (eg. feeding, bathing, diaper change) and always saying she’s tired. At least in IFC, baby gets to socialise and play. I make up for “lost time” with baby during dinner, shower time, and before bedtime.. and also over the weekend.

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sending to in laws or parents, you are assured that your child will receive that 1:1 attention and given lots of sincere love and care. not a big fan of infant care because no matter what they say you know that the attention and care for your baby will definitely be shared with many others . lowest ratio for infant care 1:3. finally , it depends on your preference actually. both infant care and parents / parents in law have their pros and cons but personally, i would choose family over outsiders 😊

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if u comfortable with inlaw looking after ur baby then should be fine. But u must take consideration such as their way of looking after baby might be different from ur expectation etc. If u are unsure, u apply infant care but let inlaw look after temporary. Cause getting a slot in infant care is depend on the availability, some takes months. Then if u find inlaw ok in looking after baby, then just go ahead. The slot u can give a miss. If not atleast u are on waiting list 🤭for infant care

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is better to send to your in law if they don't mind help you look after. alternative, you also can look for baby sitter who stay nearby your area. Infant care would be your last option & you gonna register as early as possible if you really want to send your baby to the infant care center. usually infant care center always fully taken up.

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4y ago

i got a baby sitter through an agent.

infant care! inlaws are normally old? 1. no strength? 2. old skool upbringing 3. i dont believe they still remember how to take care of infant since it was ‘n’ years ago. i dont trust baby sitter, unless you are putting baby with the in laws + baby sitter.

Infant care for sure, i doesn’t want any conflict with MIL if her way of looking after baby is not what we hope. It hard to speak out. And all my friends and colleagues also shared with me their experiences when they left their kids with PIL / MIL

Family wherever possible. My parents have been helping me with my LO since her birth. Yes. there’s potential for conflicts about parenting style. But I think the attention and care family members shower on the kid make up for this in spades.

I send my baby to ifc. I dont trust my in law. At least in ifc they cock up u can reprimand them but not your own mil. Less conflict with in law also.

i prefer infant care. most in law have their old belief on how to take care of babies and dont wan to accept what we (mum) say. so tend to have conflict.

I will ask in laws or parents I think... Infant care a bit too expensive for me. But I'm just afraid of the disagreements that may follow.