What is the best time to tell kids they are adopted?

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Different people have different understanding of as to when one should disclose it to kids. Some think that one should tell as soon as you get them home, others do not wish to tell them at all, and others buy time, and delay as much as possible. I was adopted from a close relative, and I didn't know till I was 25, and happen to know when the 'so called biological' father told me. If he had not told me, I wouldn't have ever known, and I don't know why he did that. Anyway, I asked my mother whether it was true or not and many days of crying and drama happened. I didn't feel bad that why I was not told, I felt bad of the whole situation. But it didn't change my relationship with my parents. It could not have. They were my life. The bestest parents in this whole wide world. It depends on the kids how they take the fact, and how that's going to affect them. For me it didn't matter, and may be for someone else it could have altered his relationship with his parents or would have felt distressed for the rest of his life. So, there's no best time. One should tell the kids when their heart starts aching to think about it. One should reveal if you are burdened to keep the truth inside you. https://adoption.com/how-to-tell-your-kids-theyre-adopted-and-how-not-to https://gobbelcounseling.wordpress.com/2012/06/19/when-do-i-tell-my-child-he-was-adopted/

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it really depends with different kids and the families, and i would suggest you take a cue from your child. depending on your child's maturity, as well as emotional capabilities, you can discuss about it. if you find it difficult to start the topic, you can share a few stories that are about adoption. whatever you do, be confident and make it very clear to your kid that it is just about biologically different parents, but that you are the parent and your child is yours, and that you love him or her more than anything else in the world :)

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