To spank or not to spank? My husband and I are very split on this topic. I grew up in a household where spanking was a regular occurrence, whereas my husband's family didn't do this at all. It's causing a lot of strain between us and I'm not sure what to do. On the one hand, I don't want to go against my husband's wishes. On the other hand, I am the main disciplinarian in the house, and I do feel that in the some cases, spankings help to teach children wrong from right. Does anyone else have any experience with this?

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This is the million dollar question especially when it comes to disciplining your child(ren). As parents, our patience is often tested by our kids, especially when they behave inappropriately. 4 things to keep in mind before you raise your hand. 1. “What is the lesson my the child needs to learn?” 2. Spanking is viewed by children as a punishment for their act and so does not really discipline the child. 3. Spanking is a way by which parents get rid of their anger and frustration. 4. Spanking as a form of childhood discipline is linked to depression, alcohol abuse, anger control issues, and domestic violence later in adulthood

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I was spanked as a child when I misbehaved, and I am still very close to my father. When I was caned as a child though, I remember "hating" him. Therefore, I would not follow this method as I prefer positive parenting and logical reasoning. Spanking the child causes physical pain and fear, which I would not recommend. http://sg.theasianparent.com/why-you-shouldnt-cane-your-child/

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Its ohk to spank child sometimes. If you don't spank at all then he/she will lose complete discipline. Try convincing your husband that why its important to spank. Maybe few Youtube videos can help you better

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