Single Mom in the Making

Tinalikuran ng bf ko ung bata nung nalaman nyang buntis ako. Di nya daw aakuin ung bata. I was 5 months pregnant that time. Pero di totally naputol ung communication namin. Kahit pinagmumumura ko sya. Minamaliit ko pagkalalake nya. Pati pagkatao nya. He was there. Pero minsan nawawala wala sya. Once 4 days, then tumawag, asking if I was doing good, ung health ko. Then one time di sya nagparamdam ng 1 week. I just let him. Tinitiis nya daw ako. Kaso di nya daw kaya. Then naging okay ulit kami. Nagkita. He showed so much love and care. Binigyan nya pa kong pera pambili daw ng gatas ko. Binili nya lahat ng food na gusto ko that day. Pero di namin napag usapan ung tungkol sa pag ako nya sa bata. Kapag tinatanong ko sya about sa status naming dalawa he became uneasy di nya masagot. Hindi nya pa daw masagot sa ngayon. And I cant stand it. Ayoko magmukhang tanga na umaasa someday na magiging okay kami. He's leaving me hanging in the middle. Tinatry ko namang iwork out ung ganong situation pero di mapakali ung utak ko e. I dont want to settle in that situation. He shows he cares, palagi nyang pinapaalala ung gatas ko. Na kumain ako ng mga gulay at prutas. Sabi nya magfocus daw muna ako sa health ko at sa bata. Pero nag aaway talaga kami pag nagtatanong na ko tungkol sa relasyon namin. Ngayon nag away na naman kami. Tinanong ko sya kung mahal nya pa ko. Ayaw nyang sagutin. Napaparanoid ako. How come na hinahayaan nya kong matulog wondering if he stilll loves me or not? Any advise on what should I do? If ever na akuin nya ung bata, papayag ba ko kung hanggang sa bata na lang? Gusto kong ipagdamot ung bata sakanya if ever. Tanggap ko na din naman ung ginawa nyang pagtalikod at di nya pag ako sa bata. Please help me. ? 7 months na ko ngayon. TIA!

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First, kahit akuin nya yung bata, ikaw at ikaw pa rin masusunod. Mas may karapatan ka sa bata kaysa sa kanya. Hindi kayo kasal. 2nd, tigilan mo na. Wag ka na maghabol. You have a baby to take care of. I know masakit. I was once in your situation. Medyo same. My ex got me pregnant. He said hindi nya aakuin kasi kaka college lang nya (mas matanda ako sa kanya) and takot siya sa mum nya. Then sabi ko, okay mas okay na yung ganun kasi alam Ko. Then sa sobrang stress ko sa training ko. Nag miscarriage ako. I called him na for the last time, if pwede samahan nya ko sa doctor kasi feel ko wala na yung bata. At yun nga i never communicated with him. Then few years after that I was in a 5 yr relationship. The guy got me pregnant but was accusing me of having an affair. Which wasn't true. I was abused by him that one day i told him i wanted to stop the relationship. He couldn't accept it and beat me and accused me of having an affair. I was pregnant na pala when I broke up with him. So sa sobrang stress ko I had miscarriage again. The 2nd time and different guy. Then i left Pinas and went to study abroad and after I graduated I came back. My ex regretted everything he has done. He had a gf when I arrived sa Pinas. Then when he found out that I was in the city na, he got my number and asked me if payag ba ako magkabalikan kami kasi hihiwalayan nya gf nya total 2 weeks p lang sila, jinowa nya lang kasi alam nyang pauwi na ako, para daw masaktan ako. Though the drama didn't work na, i told him na ayaw ko na. I declined after that never cared about him. I dated few guys over the years but never in a serious relationship... until i met my fiance. a very loving, caring and funny guy. 3 weeks in our relationship, i got pregnant. Imagine for few years of trying to conceive and thinking about IVF and not getting married or talked to a guy i dated to get me pregnant but that didn't happen. Then my fiance came, 3 weeks of our relationship i got pregnant. And still didn't change. We became closer to eachother. The reason why I'm telling you this, it's because I want you to know that, it's okay if someone leaves, it's okay if we loved so much, it's okay that everything didn't turn out the way we want things to be. It's okay to get hurt, but don't keep on hurting for so long. The baby can already sense your feelings. Think about the baby. You will be a great mum. And everything will be fine and everything will be in your favor... in God's time. Smile. Cheer up! And enjoy the pregnancy. The guy for you will come and he will accept you, your kid.and all your flaws. Or maybe your guy will have a wake up call in few years, weeks or months. Just keep on praying for guidance and stay happy always. *virtual hug for you mummy!*

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