For second pregnancy, did you stilll engage a confinement lady? If yes/no, why? If no, how did you cope? Can't decide myself whether I want to engage a cl. TIA!

I didn't engage for the first one. And not intending to engaged for the 3rd one too. After handling the first one, you will naturally have a better hand on how to handle a newborn. But most important, do you have anyone helping you to handle your elder child?