Putting your spouse first or putting your kids first?

Yes u r the only one who said this. Daddy should love mummy more than kids and mum will love kids more than dad, thus kid will learn to love dad & mum equally in this manner. This was being said by experts many times, but my hubby doesn’t see it this way. He think I should care for him more than kids, which I think it’s weird and in the first place my hubby has never ever care for me at all, he only loves the kid!!