Need a listening ear .. I've currently on at least 1 year no pay leave to be SAHM to take care of my two kids (age 7 and 16 months old).. especially for my 16 months old cos previously when I was still working , I sent him to infant care but he kept falling sick .. though I know it is normal that they will fall sick initially but he got bronchitis 3-4x.. thus, the decision to take care of my kids by myself cos I have no other help ..no parents or in-law's help available .. couldn't find a suitable babysitter .. my job is quite a high paying one , thus initially my hubby was unwilling for me to take 1 year no pay leave but seeing our baby down with bronchitis so many times within the short span of 6 months , we decided that perhaps this is the best choice for now .. I realised that being a SAHM is tough but satisfying .. there are challenging days but seeing my kids achieving their milestones is something that money can't buy. I also realised that becos I'm a SAHM now , my hubby becomes less Hands-on.. maybe he thinks that I'm not working so leave everything to me especially when it comes to handling the kids .. I still think he should bond with the kids but now is like he completely push everything to me :( he always say you are not earning now , full time housewife , so gotta do more . I'm okie to do more but at least he should spend time playing with kids too, right ? And whenever I wanna go grocery shopping or buy something for the kids, he will keep reminding me that I'm not earning now, don't anyhow spend .. I didn't anyhow spend .. i jus buy what is necessary like grocery and kid's necessities .. every time I need to spend money to buy what is needed, I'll feel so stressed .. and the way he says it makes me feel bad that I'm not working .. any SAHM here who is in similar situation as me ? Give up high paying job for at least a year to take care of family and kids full time?

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I've lost my job when my ex boss found out I was pregnant during my probation. It's been about 2 years now, life is definitely a bit tougher esp finances wise. I haven't really bought any new clothes or shoes for myself in the longest time. Feel down sometimes like why am I in such a situation only depending on my husband. Luckily my husband is very understanding so he doesn't mention that I'm a SAHM and not contributing financially etc, in fact he feels it's better that I'm home with the baby instead of putting her in ifc or cc. It's definitely not because he makes a lot either, we are just barely surviving with what he's making, we are living simply now. I'll prob work again when baby is older but it'll be a lot harder to find a job then since I've been out of job for such a long while. Meanwhile I'm doing some freelance designing job to make some money, not much but enough to buy things here and there. I feel sometimes is better to act blur and don't take your husband's comments too seriously. Don't be affected by him and just do your job as a mother and enjoy it while it last. You'll eventually go back to work when the kiddos start school.

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