My Lo is starting infant care next week and I feel a lot of guilt like I am abandoning him. How do I get over my mummy guilt?

Working moms often struggle with intense guilt — especially when they first go back. "Since I was returning to a job I loved, I thought I'd feel happy and worthwhile. I didn't expect those feelings to be so tempered by guilt," Working moms can also feel guilty for wanting to work. If you're in this position, know that studies have shown time and time again that good childcare can promote cognitive, language, and social skills. Relieve your guilt by choosing the best daycare center, home daycare, babysitter, or nanny that you can. To ease the transition, become familiar with your care provider before you go back to work,. "Do practice runs. Maybe even leave your child there for a few hours while you run an errand." Stay away from the online "mommy wars" between working and at-home moms, and tune out any judgmental comments you may receive. This vulnerable period is no time to jump into the fray. There are many supportive online forums for working mothers — turn to one of these instead. And finally, remember that your work serves a crucial purpose. "You know you're doing what's best for your family, whether you're working for financial reasons or because it makes you happy."