Why don't you try making her meals with her? Start with something simple like pizza where you let her add (healthy) ingredients to her own pizza?
Perhaps she doesn't want to be spoon fed. You could let her self feed. It may be messy in the beginning, but once she gains control of the spoon, you'll find that there will not be so much mess.
Try the Num Num feeding tool. It's a great tool for toddlers.
Usually, they'll be more open to eating something that they have created.
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