Fat shamed during Pregnancy

Hi Mummies, Have you ever been fat shamed during pregnancy? I've always gained weight easily. And for my first child, I gained 20kg. Throughout the pregnancy, I had people commenting on how big I was and 'jokingly' saying that maybe I am having twins. Tbh, it is really hurtful. Now I am having my second baby. I am 12 weeks, but it looks like I am 5 months pregnant. I am not eating overly much either, just really bloated. I have friends and family already beginning to comment on how big I look, telling me to watch my intake. I even have a friend who is pregnant like me commenting about how no one can tell she is pregnant, unlike me, who is round. She brags about how she actually lost weight when pregnant and is very proud of how she is still able to maintain her figure.

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Wow. This "friend" of yours is pretty toxic, suggest that you stay away from her. Sounds like she'll be one of those who would also brag about other stuff next time, might as well cut her out early if you can, no need to keep such toxicity in your life. If your friends and family comment, just say tt it's common for the 2nd pregnancy to show more and faster since the skin is looser already. Thank you for their concern, and say that it's perfectly normal, then drop the topic. If they bring it up next time, just repeat the same line. They'll get it in time (unless they're obtuse). They probably didn't mean harm, but had nothing better to say.

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