My goodness, I can relate with you especially when you mentioned on your 2nd paragraph. I've received way too much help till i have lesser time with my baby. AND YES! I only get to spend time with my baby at night, which we all eventually will go to sleep?!! During the day, my baby will be in the living room till night. And everything will be done by my in laws giving me zero chance to learn! It took a toll on me, and i guess this part affected me so bad till i feel like i'm having postpartum depression. 😞 I totally totally understand you when you said "who's the mum here?" Exactly?! We get it that you guys wanna help us mothers who just gave birth, but know your limits lor?! That's my child leh, not yours. You're just the grandparents. And till when are we going to learn if you're going to do almost everything for us! So annoying. On a serious note, this really drove me crazy. Constantly feel so sad that i had lesser time with my baby :(
It seems to me that the elders you're giving in to are your in laws. and this similar scenario happened to my family as well. I'll highly recommend to speak to your husband gently about it and let him deal with this situation in his own pace. (Don't stress him over it, not nice to be caught in between) or alternatively, speak to your in laws nicely or candidly over a meal. to let them know you appreciate their help and how you imagine parenting to be. you are right. it takes time and being respectful and patient is the key to maintain harmony in the family. 😊
No choice if you need their help and staying with them, must learn to in one ear and out the other on any senseless comment.. if not it eventually take a toll in you in future.. jia you..
I feel you :( hang in there mummy!!
I feel you. hang in there.
Hang in there!!!
Breathe!!!
Hugs!