Hi mummies, how do your cope with your confinement? My mum did confinement for me for my no1, it was a terrible experience that we(husband and i) had. She is very strict and traditional. Wants me to wear long sleeves and pants(ok im fine about it) but she doesnt allow me to bathe or on fan especially to slp. I developed rashes on my body and yet she told me that everyone went through that, it is normal to have rashes, after confinement it will go off by itself. I showed her articles frm Eu Yan Sang stating about the myths of not bathing etc, even approach my own trusted tcm clinic sinseh which all the while he is our tcm sinseh since young said that it is ok to bathe and keep myself clean, as long as i dry myself thoroughly after bathe. Also, avoid direct contact with the wind(frm fan and aircon), all these are fine. Yet my mum still denies and said all these are rubbish. I had several heated arguments with her alrd. Now with no2, im stress about confinement again so is my husband. Food wise every meals are the same. No plain water, no fruits no veg(only selected 1 or 2 choices) She nags and nags, i know she meant well but how to survive with her "logic". Ok, everyday my meals definitely comes with ginger with steamed fish and a plate of rice, good times there will be additional 1 plate of ginger with broccoli. Thats all. She cooked the same every meal for lunch and dinner, expecting me to finish all the food. She says no soup, soup bla bla bla like not gd or i cant drink soup. After probably 10days im really sick of the food and couldnt even eat any yet she nags and scolds non stop. Complaining to all her friends and relatives abt hw "disobeying" i am. Then some of her nosy friends will add on to the nagging. I don't know what else can i do or say to change her mind or even negotiate with her. It is really horrible experience on my end. Trustable source and tcm i hav also approached and showed it to her. I am really stress about my confinement than anything else. Her best line is " i also survived, you think you are the only one doing confinement? Confinement is meant to have discipline. Whether you like it or not ok! I am doing for your own gd, you not happy then leave" :( Any advise please

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Wow! I must say ur mother is quite extreme. I think u are already pretty fair about showing her trusted sources about it but she won't budge. Frankly I am not picky abt food but I cannot imagine no veg for so long and eating almost the same everyday. DON'T involve her for the upcoming confinement. Hire a confinement lady! I don't think u are still living w her right? Do at ur own place or ur in-law place but be the boss and not be bossed around. Other ways to handle will be to order confinement carter food, get a nanny, or get a maid and ask ur husband to take leave for 2 wks. The so called for ur own good is based on ur experience and all the hear say - no real backing. Just because it turn out well for a few doesn't mean it will for others. Why risk a very potential experience? She is welcomed to visit but not welcomed to stay too long or poke her nose into ur confinement. It's alrdy ur second confinement, by right if need be, u can bath and see baby a little here and there. Other ways to involve but not involve her is to suggest putting the number one at her house or ask her to bring the older one out a few times a wk for a few hrs

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9y ago

Well it might make things complicated but u have more hands and ur meals will potentially be better.this round's confinement will be different as there is also number1 to look after. On that grounds get a CL, work around the space constrain if possible