Ask the Expert: Maintaining long-term romance in marriages

A newborn and a child will definitely affect your relationship - who's kidding who. :) I might sound like I am joking but I am not. Most couples lament the life lost but forget that they are also the ones who chose to have a child. Life is constantly changing and evolving - that's just life. We long for the good times when in reality, we can't keep them even if we wanted to. We can only relive them as memories. Focus on creating good moments and new memories with your partner. It is so important that they are on board with you in cocreating romance, blocking out time, keeping couple time so the marriage is not one around the child - but one of love. It's challenging but if we don't plan - we plan to fail. I truly wish you all the best.