Just wanted to share my feelings

Hello! I am a SAHM too for 3 years now, I have a 18m and coming soon with a NB. I share your feelings. I cannot imagine myself trying to cope with 2 under 2. But what I’ve learnt is that you are living with your own mum, you may want to be firmer with her in terms of words. I feel that my parents are just telling me things along the line that “last time was tougher, last time I was taking care of children myself”, my reply will be “last time virus and bacteria also not that potent. Last time police use shorts, last time 10cent for a bowl of noodle.” Don’t feel that you are useless, you maybe going through some post natal blue but I am pretty sure you are doing your best for you 2 children. Ignore people who are comparing, these people are everywhere. Sometimes is better that we have our own space with our own family that we created. No one judge, no one talks s*** that we don’t need to hear. I know, is not that we don’t care about our partner. We also want them to eat well given that they are consider the bread winner for the house. We just don’t want to give them additional stress and don’t want to spend, yet when they step in and help we feel happy but guilt because we are SAHM. No one will truly understand what it feels like to be a SAHM unless they go through it, and the type of stress we face 24hours. I didn’t ask anyone for any help because everyone does it differently. I rather have it tough, because I face it myself, I control my emotions myself, I say what I want, I do what I want. No one need to know what I am going through, no one needs to empathise with me because this is how unwanted judgement, stigma, prejudice comes about even with our own family, yes the family we come from. So I rather have it myself, tough is on me, easy is also on me. No one shares my success not my failure. The only person that I will ask help and seek understanding is from my spouse, he is the rightful one. You do you. A lot of the older generation are narcissistic parents, my parents included so don’t be afraid to set boundaries and stand firm with what you want even if it offends them it doesn’t mean that we don’t love them or we are not thankful for them. We grow up and change our perspective and how to deal with our daily lives. Hang in there! Reach out to rant to people who share the same thoughts as you so you don’t feel alone. With much love from another SAHM 💕💕