Took LO away without informing

Question

Had a fight with husband today. I wanna take a break from taking care 2 months old. He did try to best to support whenever he is around. But Im so overwhelmed and tired and exhausted. I had support from my mum but I still have to take care mostly by myself. Appreciate what my mum did. But I cant help to feel so suffocated. So I know I have to talk to someone - my husband which ended up in a fight. He then took my son to visit clinic without informing me. I mean I was just ranting out to him and now I felt leftout from my son clinic visit. I only realised when I heard the door open and closed. Went out to find that I was abandoned.Should I be angry for not informing me? Or should I appreciate that he let me rest? But I only can feel Im been leftout.

Anonymous · Answer

Calm yourself down first, you can’t think straight if you are fuming/feeling stressed out. Maybe your husband’s POV is that he wants to let you cool down and rest properly but probably did it in a wrong way for not informing. My husband would have just left himself and leave the kid with me 🙃. The thing about guys is that they like to just leave instead of debating whereas girls usually go all Conan mode. Also, you mentioned that they are heading to the clinic so I personally find it ok, after 1, my husband brings LO to all vaccinations while I stay home. Take a rest for the time being, after you cooled down, can make dinner then let him know that you appreciate him for taking baby to clinic (guys usually take the soft approach). This way, can avoid another fight and also, he will try to understand you more.