I'm a 6 week old mum and I really hate breastfeeding. Everyone tells me it's a great bonding experience but it's painful and tiring for me, and I feel so tired and tied down. I dont feel like I can talk to anyone about it, and I feel like such a bad mom. Has anyone else been through this?? Please tell me I'm not alone :(

When the topic of breastfeeding comes up, the attention is almost always focus on the benefits it brings about. However, there are some facts that are often overlooked. Of which, the main one would be that breastfeeding could in fact be an excruciating process for the mother. It is a natural response then, from the mother to feel resentment, and worst, a sense of failure and guilt. Hence, while it could potentially be a bonding experience, it could also well become a factor that pushes the mother from the baby. In such cases, it may be better for the mother to stop and spend more time on cuddling and showering her baby with warmth and love. Here is a list of 15 things often not mentioned about breastfeeding: http://www.scarymommy.com/15-things-they-dont-tell-you-about-breastfeeding/ Also, you can consider joining this nonprofit support group: http://breastfeeding.org.sg/ They offer counseling, workshops and talks. More importantly, you get to meet others who may be facing the same or different issues with breastfeeding. You are definitely not alone. Take care!