Feeling lousy and incompetent at 31+ weeks with pre-eclampsia & GD

Hello! I’m at 31+ weeks with pre-eclampsia and gestational diabetes. Although I don’t exercise, I’ve been trying very hard to watch diet and keeping blood sugar in good check, but the conditions doesn’t improve. My baby is most probably due by C-sect anytime now should the doc deems fit and will require NICU (private rates). I worry for baby’s health and the hefty costs to be incurred from NICU. I have very supportive and encouraging husband and family. But I cannot help feeling lousy and incompetent and seems like nothing is within my control. I stopped talking to baby for a while because I’ll cry when I do so. Even now as I’m typing this I’m tearing and I’ve been having sleepless nights. What can I do to change my mindset and be positive and not transfer my fears to baby? What more can I do to ease my body conditions and to reduce financial burden? Thank you everyone, I really really need help. Thank you.

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Hi mummy, i was a pre-eclampsia (PE) mother at abt 30 weeks as well. And usually for pre-eclampsia, yes, likely to deliver earlier. My doc warded me the moment he found out that i had PE and he recommended that I choose a subsidized ward. I was a private patient but I changed to class C at the local hospital to save costs… bcos likely u’ll delivered a preterm baby and there’s a need to forecast the cost for baby in nicu… so, if you are burdened by the financial costs, the least that u can do is to consider the lowest class ward and make sure that the hospital u r in is facilitated for preterm babies. GD i guess the least that u can do is follow ya dietitian recommendation… most mothers do pretty well with gd. I also felt lousy like you, even after having a preterm baby i questioned myself why am i subjecting my baby to such challenges… its a lot of self-blaming, anger, inferior complexity gg on… but you just have to be stronger than anybody else… your baby will be fine, just do the necessary to rid of the stress… bcos stress isn’t good for PE also… wish u well

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