Hi sis, after reading this i feel your heart is saying to keep the baby but your mind is thinking of the future. All mom wants the best for their children. I suggest register childcare and infant care for your kids. while waiting for a slot to open up, get help from family to care for your children and look for a job full/part time. so that u can claim working mum subsidy. dont be afraid when u see the prices for infant/child care. i only paid $40 for infant care and $115 for child care later on. (due to increase in salary both me and husband). both me and husband combine salary below 5k and household 6 pax. all non working only me and husband working. we got the max subsidy during infant care. Hence $40/month. I use CDA to pay. CDA can last me througout the infant care from 4-18month. there is even start up grant to help pay for the initial deposit. also apply for hdb rental as soon as you can when only your husband is working so only 1 income is access. email hdb every week to expedite your case.( i help my brother to email hdb every week. he got rental less than 2 month). please approach your nearest social service centre if you are not sure how the process. they will be able to help and even recommend programmes that benefits you and family. Hope all goes well for you. Stay strong to all moms out there.
As a Muslim and an ustazah, in Islam, the soul enters the fetus at 40 days. Before that, there is a difference of opinion amongst scholars on whether or not you can abort. I understand your situation is tight, but do believe and have hope that insyaaAllah with every child, there will be Rizq and Allah will sustain you and your family. Just as how you've made it so far with your 2 children, you can and will continue to make it. It will be challenging of course, but you can get through this if you choose to keep the baby. You may need to reach out to get help from others as well. It won't be easy with 3 young children or look for more flexible work arrangements. Making Du'a for you and sending lots of love 🥰 Do seek help from the FSCs and social workers!! It takes a village to raise a child and sometimes you just don't know what help and what options are available to support you and lighten your load!
thank you for sharing your thoughts and concerns. it sounded to me like you are actively thinking for your husband, family and your unborn child. They indeed are lucky to have you around to think forward. There are many resources out there including social service office (https://www.msf.gov.sg/our-services/directories#socialtab) that provide financial aid to support families in need. your plans of finding employment would also be helpful to ease out the financial concerns. so worth a thought to see it as a long term plan. :) Do take care of your emotional well being and jointly discuss and make decisions with your husband. when 2 person shares the decision making, it makes it less stressful as it is a shared responsibility. after all, it is the family both of you are thinking for.. take good care and speak to someone if you need a listening ear. :)
Hi mama!! While it is a challenging circumstance, I think the fact that you're already trying to plan forward and think for the wellbeing of the children is so heartening. I'm from the social service sector and wanted to share a resource - do consider reaching out to this organisation called ALife. They have a programme called SUPeRF that supports mothers with unplanned pregnancies, by helping to talk through the decisions with you, helping to connect you to resources (finances, groceries, baby supplies) if you qualify. You can just google and go to their website, then WhatsApp the number for support! Wishing you all the best!!
U need to ask an uztazah on this. You are very young, can your parents or his parents help out? Idk if easy to find a job since u r pregnant. After reading this, I think your niat is to keep it and seek Him for help and more rezeki. Because you mentioned that you will be full of guilt and wont be able to tc of ur current kids properly. Do discuss with your husband on this ya. Right after this pregnancy, you can tell your gynae to put you on birth control ya. I wish you all the best ♥️
No judgement but im a muslim too. I went thru e-csect. And i told my husband if i were to accidentally get pregnant within 2 years, i will abort it. My mental health is not at its best same goes to financial. I dont want my kids to suffer and go thru financial crisis. With just one baby/toddler im already struggling.
hi sis. i think you do want to keep the baby. so just go ahead and believe that Allah will provide as long as we usaha too. insha allah ada rezeki for the baby. yes, it will be tough but u can do it. take care.
It’s seems pretty clear to me that you wish to keep your child. There’s a will, there’s a way, though it might be a tough one. All the very best to you and your fam!