3 children, too much?

I was pushed contraceptions methods while I was pregnant with my first. After I gave birth I was pushed with the options again, they literally kept bugging me n I just decided to get implanon but I bled everyday for a year straight then I went to get it removed because I wanted another child. Now that I'm pregnant with my second (1st is coming 20mo) I'm still being pushed contraceptions during EVERY SINGLE CHECKUP. I always reject. Zz. That aside I'm also constantly asked by the doctors what I plan to do with my life? What our plans are after baby comes? The plan is to raise our kids, what else? Why does it concern them? We want 3 kids too, is it wrong? I plan to get contraceptions after our 3rd, not any sooner 🙄 I always get so frustrated when they ask me, I understand that I am quite young but I'm NOT that young, I've also always made it clear that my pregnancies are planned so I really don't get why they're so pushy. I thought govt wants the birth rate to increase? Or has that changed lol

Felt really uncomfortable on your behalf . Why would a doctor even questioned that? Is he even going to help you raise your children ? If not, how dare he raise all these sensitive questions in the presence of others. That is just plain rude and disrespectful. Having how many children is your personal choice so long as you and your husband stay committed and be responsible to the kids. The opinions of the rest does not really matter. Even if you have an only child, there’s still people going to say that’s too little should have another child as a companion.🙄 What matters most is to keep yourself happy in order to raise happy kids. Lastly, I hope you won’t see this rude doctor again. If you did and he’s trying to be rude all over again, pls call him out and ask him to mind his own business.

Oh the nerve of that doctor! Asking you things like that as if he was going to be helping you out with raising the kids, or paying your rentals and bills. Honestly I wouldn’t have been as patient as you were, I’d probably ask him back, “Where are you going with all these questions?” That aside, I hope you will keep on going. Just hold on to your plans, and don’t let his comments get to you too much ok? And change your doctor, if you must. I did, and my doctor wasn’t even rude or anything, we just weren’t jiving very well. The last thing you need is the stress every time you see the doctor. Also, 3 children is okay! Am currently pregnant with baby no 4, so 😉 You have your own plans for your own family, and they don’t have to live up to anyone else’s expectations. Take care!

Oh wow.. The Dr really insensitive n got no EQ.. If I were you, I will kick his face when he come to check my vjj.. I went to KKH too for my both child and luckily both gynae are ok.. The gynae for my first child never even mention about it. The gynae for my second child did ask whether I planning for another child or would like to take contraceptive. She even encourage me to have another one since I'm still young.

I think you should lodge a complaint to the hospital to let them know about this issue. cos they need to realise that this type of personal questions may lead to post natal depression for some mothers. let the hospital to investigate and decide if they wish to penalise that particular doctor and to set a record straight that they should not ask mothers such a personal questions!

Wow the audacity of that doctor! I would not have been as patient and kind as you to answer him. Instead, would have told him to mind his own business and stick to being an obstetrician. I hope everything turns out well for you. Just focus on your delivery for now and if possible, request for another doc cos you don’t need this totally unnecessary stress at this point.

which hospital you went to? high iq but low eq this doctor. i think his approach abit too much. sounds very judgmental. and thn there they go about SG low birth rate this and that. my first one doctor told me to take contraceptive. i told him back “it took my 7 years to conceive my 1st now why would i wanna be on contraceptive?”

I’m staying in a 2 room rental flat and I really don’t give a F**k what the docs say as they are NOT financially supporting my kids I am…. Never let a doc pull you down you are who you are I’m due soon with my 7th child and there is nothing wrong with that… docs told me I’m too young 33yrs with 7 kids

* Another thing is, my husband and I already discussed regarding our future plans and family planning way before we came to the hospital and is staying in a rental flat really a shameful thing? We're saving up money and we're not staying in a rental flat forever. We just do things slower than others...

some docs are really kuku. part of the brain has short circuit. if my children become like him, I will definitely throw him into river and feed crocodile. wondering how he passed his exam? lack of etiquettes as a doc..