Grandparent in law passed on

I'm a free thinker but with a taoist background. I think this is more of how much you personally believe in pantang, and the social pressure from the relatives who believe strongly. If you can, just excuse yourself with a "I'm not feeling well" if it's awkward to share you're pregnant. For me I'll let my parents know and they'll prob be like "attended already bopian la, just don't go the rest, nvm la people won't care one" If this is going to be overhanging your pregnancy and cause you extra stress, just check in with the taoist priest or temple after to see if they have any advice as to next steps. At least if you have some aunties that remember you had attended a ritual when you announce your pregnancy and start gossiping you can shut that down.

thanks everyone for the advice, my hub and I managed to speak to the person conducting the ritual privately and he asked me not to participate in the ritual. told my in law that I'm not feeling well and they were understanding as well. now that the funeral is over I can focus on when to make the announcement to them :)

just inform the person in charge separately, they will provide you with a red string to tie around your belly. the rational being not your husband grandfather will harm you but the other "hao xiong di"

actually is 3 months le is ok to say liao cause some ppl might badang i also same issue i said and they tie red ribbon for me when attending. better to say to protect the baby

So you were there when they performed the ritual? If it has already happened, then don’t worry so much. I pray that all will be well for you and baby. Take care!

You should walk away from the ritual if you feel uncomfortable. It’s alright. You are at week 13 of your pregnancy already. Jia you! 😘💪🏻

If you’re not comfortable you should tell the people conducting the ritual perhaps separately..

They will give you a red string with any key that you no longer use to tie around your belly.