Planning to divorce

Hello, I know this is very sudden and literally just out of nowhere but I need some advice. I've been having difficulty communicating with my husband even before marriage and during pregnancy. Right now, my baby is 4 months going to be 5 and we're planning to get a divorce. I would like to know how would this affect the baby/kid in the future and if anyone of you grew up having parents who separated, please let me know your thoughts as well. Honestly, this ending is certainly not what I expected but it is needed as my husband is emotional abusive and does not communicate or even want to solve issues at all which is why I'd rather have the kid to myself as I do not want my baby to imitate his behaviours (hurling vulgarities/neglecting/manipulating/gaslighting) and attitude. Ofcourse there are always cons to having separated parents, but it'll be helpful to know some pros as well. Thank you in advanced :)

Angel Neo

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My parents are separated and growing up I feel that nothing really changed for me except that daddy doesn’t lives with us anymore. I still get the love and care from both of them, just from different places. And after both of them remarried, I get extra love from my step parents as well. To me, I would rather my parents seperate than to live together but non stop fighting/quarreling (which probably will affect the kid more). But just a heads up, custody is usually 50-50 now as they want both parents to take responsibility unless there is physical abuse etc then you can try to fight for full custody. Have you considered getting your husband to try out marriage counselling to see if it can help both of you before the last resort to divorce?

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