I have a helper but noticed that her working attitude is really jialat. How do SAHM with few toddlers cope without a helper at home? How do you manage the busy schedule alone?

With regard to maintaining the cleanliness of the house, try having a cleaning schedule for the family (great guide here: http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2014/02/18/create-cleaning-schedule-works/). Create one that fits your family (get your husband and children involved with helping with the household chores too!), would doing a bit every day work or spending some time over the weekend for chores be more suitable? Divide (the chores) and conquer! Having the schedule will get the chores out of the way and one less thing to think about. Prioitize the tasks that needs to be done regularly and those can afford to wait. This will help give you more time everyday to attend to your children. For meals, you can consider cooking, order tingkat services, or getting husband to do takeaways. For cooking, you can prepare meals in advance (on weekends for example) and freeze them such that you only need to reheat the food during weekdays. Mainly, I think it would take some planning and once you get things onto some sort of a routine, it will be easier.