I am a first time mum, my pain tolerance is super super low to the extent when drawing blood I feel pain for the insertion or injection by requesting & using the smallest diameter needle. Docs and nurses often teased me for being such a baby. Recently I started to have a lot of phobias for delivery pain. Initially I was very worried but now I am having a freak out even I have scary dreams about the painful labour process lately. Now I am really constantly thinking of the pain that a pregnant mum (referring myself) that I have to endure and go through in future. I told my mum and mother in law about my serious fears regarding the pain. Mother in law told me the pain is not the dilation or tear in vagina, the real pains are the contractions throughout the 10hours+ duration. Is this true? Or the pains are when the baby is coming out of the vagina? I am so scared mummies! Pls help me. Pls tell me what to do because I am really extremely scared of the pain. I don't know where exactly the pain comes from and how to overcome them? Should I just go for C-sect to end the painful process for someone like me who is so afraid of pain? But I wanted a faster recovery so thinking of going for vaginal delivery with epidural. I heard epidural is a pain reducer, not a pain reliever. And I am very worried I am going to suffer prenatal depression right now. How or what should I do to seek mental consultation to relieve my tremendous fears for pain?

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Well for the opposite my pin tolerance is super high! I felt 0 pain and had 0 contractions totally not like those scene I saw in movies and dramas! No screaming no sweat no pain no dramatic experience! I had NO contractions at all not even period cramps kind of cramps (I’ll literally curl into a ball even with my pain tolerance being super high) but when my baby was about to POP GIRLLLL let me tell you not everyone is the same but dont think think soooo much into it!!!!!!!!! Just stay calm! I didn’t take epidural I didn’t do anything I just lie on the bed use my phone play game in labour ward for 1.5 hour and I felt the urge to push and I pushed! I admitted at 4:30am baby came out 6:30! I push less than 10 mins no pain at all! After this I told myself what I see on tv is all extra dramatic🙄🙄 it’s literally not as painful as you’re expecting!

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