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Husband support - just started new job

My husband just started his new job three weeks ago and will not be getting any paternity leave as I’m due in two weeks. He has been working 730am to 8pm and while I really want to support him, I’m getting more anxious now as baby will be popping anytime soon. He’s usually very tired and will just zone out after work. We had the initial plan that he will take no-pay leave during the first month. Seems like his boss had actually fought for him to get leave and has suggested that he use some of the prorated leave to take just two weeks, and can consider either work-from-office / work-from-home for the rest. I did initially agree with the idea but after seeing how it is the past two weeks…..I’m now worried. I do still hope that he will still be hands on and not just pass things to myself or our newly-hired (and yet to arrive) helper. Anyone has any suggestions how I can overcome these feelings of uncertainty and anxiety? :(

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maybe all you need is talk to him about your concern and he will understand and sth can be work out between both of you? i truly stand with you that the anxiety is unavoidable but since you made up your mind to be supportive wifey, both you and husb will be alright ☺️ i think at the end of the day.. u just need someone to talk to abt the bottled up feeling

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Yea I spoke to him and try to understand…..but the new job does make things harder. He has to forgo the last two Dr appts as well….so far, talking to friends to distract does help and he did try to help more with the helper coming in over the weekend….. Trying to manage the anxiety >

Are yall hiring confinement nanny or do you have siblings to help you? Maybe if there is someone around just some presence will help even though your partner is busy!

Anonymous

Yea thankfully there’s gonna be a confinement nanny. Unfortunate my mum is no longer around and my dad doesn’t really know how to help w childcare…. My in-laws also was dependent on their parents for infant care so to get their help, we have to ask (if not, they do not). Makes it a bit awkward but I guess I do have to suggest to him to ask them to help more since technically…..they are retired (though busy with their programmes). Unfortunately….we don’t have a ready village 😔

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