How much ang bao would your give fil's mistress? She told husband "please inform ur wife that she needs to give angbao to me too since u two are married" ??? Ps: she isint a nice lady Im married for 3 yrs and had my first kid last yr but she didnt give me angbao during dating neither did she give angbao to my child during cny. And she is legally NOT my mil!!!

I hope your husband gave her a logical reply when she said that to him! As she is not married to your FIL, there is zero obligation to give her. If she is looking for acceptance/acknowledgment from you both, that’s not a smart way of doing it. Your husband should let his dad know what she said too and tell him how it made him and you feel. I know it’s not easy for us to talk to our parents like this but it lets your FIL know that both your husband and you are NOT ok with this nonsense.