how to be best mother and wife to the family?

as a wife: I suggest you to read the book of Gary Chapman, "The Five Love Languages". It is clearly narrated their the different needs of every couple. Really a good book, maraming insights. as a mother: I know you are a good mother already by asking this kind of question. Don't ever stop learning momsh as a parent. marami tayong matututunan by researching. Attend parenting seminars, read a book or articles about parenting. it is broad kasi if I tell you to be your best because we don't know what really is the best. I mean, we have different perspective, lalo na ang mga bata. the "best" for us might not be the best in the eyes of our children. kaya importante to study them so we can understand things in their perspective.

Always give your best. :) make sure they feel your love and effort in every thing you do for them..

Just always give your best kahit hindi perfect.