No idea how to give advice based on ur situation. Cause I faced the same thing with my husband. But not to the extend that can harm our daughter. He still on the phone n watching the girl playing around. There's few times I need to tell him off how he take care of our daughter, but later on when am not around he did what I told him to do. But, when I'm around, he take it lightly cause he knew I will do n watching our daughter even when I do housechores. So I think this matter need to come from the bottom of ur husband's heart. If he want to take care of ur baby, regardless of any matters, he will do n improve day by day. Even when he play phone @ game, if he want to watch for the kid, definitely he can. But if he don't want, he will not do it n looking for 100 million reasons. Even if u force him, if he don't want, he will not do it.