Gumagamit pa ba kayo ng mga panakot sa bata para tumigil sila sa kakaiyak? Like: pag di ka tumigil sa kakaayik, lalabas dyan sa sugat mo ang tren!"

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Effective eto sa akin noong bata ako kasi lagi sinasabi ng mom ko na kapag hindi ako umuwi ng 5pm (naglalaro sa labas), kukunin ako ng bayawak. Kaya lagi ako umuuwi before 5pm. Pero now na mayroon na akong sariling anak, I think I will try my best to talk to my daughter and explain things kesa takutin sila. As much as possible, ayaw ko din sabihin yung kukunin siya ng pulis pag hindi siya tumigil kakaiyak kasi I know someone na takot yung bata sa pulis (tuwing makakakita sya) kasi iyon ang panakot sa kanya ng nanay niya.

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As much as I want to avoid saying pranks like these, I still can't help it especially if the kid is super kulit na. He knows about monsters, giants, Halloween and Mr. Bones. But not to the extent of really scaring them all the time just to follow you. Positive parenting is still the recommended way of raising kids, but I guess some parents couldn't just help but use panakot especially during desperate times. :)

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No. Kasi you are making your child weak. Yung baby ko kasi pag umiyak sya nililibang ko lang sya sa ibang bagay para matawa sya. And at the same time nagiging masiyahin dn anak ko . Everytime na madadapa sya, he look at me first and then he stand on his own tapos he just give me a beautiful smile. Teach your child to be strong and independent habang bata pa sya .

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No, better to explain sa anak yung matter para mas maintindihan niya. Kahit gaano kakulit, doon na lang maubos yung energy kakaexplain kesa sa maubos ang energy sa kakapanakot. I guess hindi na din gaano effective yung ganitong pananakot, iba na ang mga bata ngayun at ibang level ang kanilang mga logic and reasoning kaya mas maganda na masabayan ng maayos sila..

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Yung anak ko ang babaw nang luha kaya kapag naiyak sasabihan ko lang nang "di kapa nga napapalo umiiyak kana, sarado ko bibig mo na yan or mahahanger ka?" Takot sya sa hanger πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ kapag intense na kase galit ko mapapalo na sya nang hanger pero madalang lang kase tumitigil na sya ayaw nya mahanger.

Now a days mas mabuti na you explain to the child what really happens , bigyan mo ng encouraging words para ma uplift yung spirit nya at tumigil na sya sa pag iyak. Lalo na pangaralan mo sya na mag ingat lagi sa lahat ng oras para di na mangyari sa kanya ang ganong bagay .

I sometimes do, although that's not what I want to happen. There are just times wherein I feel so hopeless pag hindi sumusunod si baby kaya nkakapagsabi ako ng things na parang mtatakot sya. But I always realize na mali talaga. I know I need more practice in positive parenting.

I used to avoid doing that! But I want my children to trust me and I want to be the one defending my children with ofcourse the authorities like in school principals, administrators, principal,teacher, etc., barangay officials, good police ,...and more!

I don't want to scare of them of someone or something. My lola used that way on me, mentioning one person always if I will not follow her or if i will not stop crying. And I grew up scared of that person, till now I don't have the guts to even look in his eyes

Hay naku, may times na parang wala na akong choice. Sinasabi ko lang na the monster might get you if you don't stop crying. Pero parang nasasanay na din sya so I'm looking for other strategies again para mapatahimik sya