Hi I am pregnant and it is unplanned. I am not sure whether to keep it or abort it

The father of the baby and I did it in our first date even tho I have no intention of having 2nd date.Few weeks later, my menses came late which quite rare to happen for me . He accompanied to see me a doctor and the doctor confirmed that I am pregnant despite being safe. Of course , He wants to abort it . I do understand why but I feel irresponsible to kill a life . I told my parents about it and they didn’t approve with the idea of abortion because they believe in karma /bad luck. I know being a single mom is tough but I don’t know if I can give this baby a good life . P.S My close friends , parents and even him felt that this baby is “lucky”

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I think there are some things you need to consider before deciding to keep or abort. 1. Is there any help you can get to take care of the baby? As I think if you are doing it alone, it will be very tedious and nerve wrecking especially times when the baby is crying for no apparent reasons. 2. Can your financial status manage? As having a baby, there are a lot of expenses incurred such as their diapers, milk powders (unless you plan to exclusive breastfeed) and toiletries, especially during the confinement month such as getting a confinement lady. 3. Also, if you plan to return work after your maternity leave, who will be taking care of the baby? In my opinion, all of these have to take into considerations before you decide to abort or keep. I personally will not abort any babies, as I believe that all of them are innocent and deserve a chance to be born as I have two past miscarriages and really treasure each time I got pregnant. After all, these are precious lives. However, upon having a decision, I think you should let the father of the child knows and he can decide if he want to make any contributions to the child's life such as visiting the baby, bringing the baby out or through financial means such as paying for the baby expenses.

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