Hi everyone How do u all cope going back to work after your maternity? Its been a year since ive given birth and i am still dragging my self to work. This year alone ive taken 7 days of mc. 3 days if it is bcause im really sick and another 4 is bcause i want to be at home with my kid. My husband is always overseas and everytime i tried talking to him about this,he will just laugh it off. i just want to be at home and be with my kid. everytime i will feel sad and bad leaving my kid when im off to work.How do i motivate myself to go back to work? I really need to work as we need the money for the house and expenses.

There is always pro and con that come with every decision you made and depend how strong and supportive is your Husband. I left my high paid job to care for my children at home. Although I do see a significant improvement in my children behaviour and learning development. As I am not contributing and getting allowance from my hubby, he start to make noise or challenges me to get a job whenever I had a disagreement with him especially when if issue are about his family side. Now when I want to go back to workforce, I am force to take a pay cut as my skillset are outdated which make his family and him look down on me further. At one point, my children (just 4 years old) even learn from my pils and make this comment to me: "your words are just air as you got no say in this family." If your work can be done at home, how about arranging with your company to work half day or a day or twoat home which some of my friends did.