For couples with baby/ies living with their in-laws (husband side), how do you make "pakisama" with them? Do you give monetary "thank you"? Are you in charge of the food, utility bills, give them allowance etc? How do you effectively manage your finances if all of a sudden you'll be in charge of 2 more adults. I'd love to hear how you sail through this situation because we're currently in that situation and I'm having difficulties about it.

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We don't live with our in-laws but we used to. Right after I gave birth before my husband went abroad, we stayed there for several months. We just contributed a portion for each of the bills—water, electricity, grocery and other stuff. If we go out as a family, we would also bring my in-laws. We didn't pay for rent because they own the house. Actually, I think you should be talking to your spouse about that. As a child of your in-laws, who, I suppose, are already aging, the responsibility is at your spouse and you can't keep him from that. After all, they are his/her parents. If you think things aren't fair when it comes to partition, reach out and talk.

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5y ago

I suppose I have to discuss it with my husband, but what do you consider as "fair"?