Arghhh!!! Im getting depression soon! Delivered no2 for 3 weeks, my mum is my confinement nanny, doesnt let me bathe, sometimes(most of the time) nv cook longan water, everyday cooked about the same food either lunch and dinner entirely same food or consecutively same food for 2 days, every alternate days cook ginger meesua(food that i hate). Worse is, next door doing house renovation, my surrounding building BTOs, both babies crying non stop due to the noise. Both parents everyday scold about this and that, i can tell you the sarcasm and nagging is absolutely driving u insane. The hubby only knows about working, asking him to help just a bit he will feel irritated and annoyed. Ask him to help anything he will tell me "ehhh i don owe it to you ok" Pregnancy, delivery pain and healing of the wounds are not as insane as confinement. This 30-40days really a pain especially for traditional chinese i think. Every single "rules" or "myths" are so ridiculous yet many oldies are forcing people to accept. I dono where to channel and what to do to make myself happy and not fret over these things.

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talk to us mummy!!! I know how u feel! basically i ignored all confinement rules. i go and bathe for my sanity. i told myself. IF i go nuts, who gna care for mybabies?

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7y ago

Thanks mummy! But I think u guys couldnt imagine hw bad the scoldings are. I know parents meant well, but it is nt necessary to add on such scoldings and sarcasm when im going through such tough times. Sigh!