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1οΈβ£ Sa mga parents na nagdecide na one child lang or nag decide na isa lang ang magiging anak, ano po ang mga reasons ninyo? π
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advanced maternal age, mahal ang fertility treatment, higher chance of eclampsia, cervical incompetency. We had fertility treatment 2022 and got pregnant earlier 2023 at the age of 36 pero napa early labor ako at nkaanak ng extremely premature baby last june 2023 due to incompetent cervix. 2 months after giving birth nabuntis ako ulit unexpectedly without fertility treatment na,im currently 16 weeks,ang dami na complication, chronic hypertension, IC, unti2 pag taas ng sugar, palpitation kaya natakot na ako magbuntis ulit, ayoko na talaga magbuntis nakakatakot na baka ako naman ang mapahamak, kaya if ever mabubuhay na itong 2nd ko last na to, di bali ng 1 child lang and naintindihan naman n husband.
Magbasa paWhen I was pregnant super happy ko , when labor begins dun ko narealized namasakit pala manganak lalo panganay , I've been scheduled for cs kasi stock ako 3 cm for 1 week more bleeding and pain nanghihina na ko , sabi ko sa sarili ko ayoko na tama na isa. And then mag 1 yr old na baby ko buntis pala ako π where not expecting this blessing pero andito na di natin masasabi kung kailan ibibigay ang blessing. But where not taking family planning, withdrawal only π . Yes magastos pero need pag hirapan para sa mga babies nyo. Don't regret lalo buhay ang gift sainyo. God has planned he doesn't give you a blessing if hindi nyo kaya β€οΈπ Keep it up mga momshhh fighting ππ
Magbasa paMy husband and I ONCE decided na one child lang kami. Tas eto ang plot twist! Nung 8 years old na anak, biglang nag-beg ang anak ko na magkaroon ng kapatid as in ARAW ARAW. Buti na lang it was not too late for me, nabuntis naman ako kahit 38 na ako. so ayon may pangalawa na kami. 9 years agwat nila ng panganay ko. Okay naman din. Pero factors ng desisyon namin ng husband ko DATI na one child lang is because of what we went through with our panganay. sobrang sakitin laging naoospital, ang gastos. Naisip namin pag dalawa mahirap. pero okay na din panganay ko di na sakitin haha sorry gulo ng kwento ko sana makatulong.
Magbasa paperu pangatlo baby nasa tummy ko ngayon ...hindi ako masaya napaka hiram ng buhay ngayon....
we wanted plenty of kids but prior to becoming pregnant, i was diagnosed with pcos and endometriosis which causes infertility, so we thought "Lord pls at least 1 lang". after 3 yrs we got pregnant. then years passed, we hoped again, 10 yrs has passed, 11, 12, 13 and we thought, it's okay, we're happy we have one. when we've come to terms that we won't have another, i got pregnant again even with pcos, endo and 2 myomas. 16 yrs ang gap nila. i'm 42 now. God is good. praying for healthy baby and safe delivery soon even with the risk and complication.
Magbasa paSabi ko nun isa lang anak ko lalot sobrang nahirapan ako kasi may cleftleftpallate sya(bengot) sakitin din ung panganay ko meron syang pneumonia noon kaya mula nung nilabas ko sya nabuhay na sya sa gamot. kaya yung kabila nyang tenga wala ng pandinigπ₯Ίnapakahirap natrauma ako sa lahat ng hirap na pinagdaanan namin ng anak ko. Pero ngayong 9yrs na sya nasundan sya may second baby na kami kaya sobrang saya nya kasi may kalaro nadaw sya may kapatid na sya. na realised kudin na okay din pala na meron syang kapatid atleast may kakampi sya balang araw.
Magbasa paHi mi .. as an only child hindi ko gusto na mag isa sya kaso nasa part rin ako na bakit pako mag dadagdag kung enough na sya as my child tapos, I have to be financially ready sa lahat ng aspeto ng pagkatao nya medically, educationally, needs & wants. BTW I am a working single mum ayoko namang magdagdag tapos I can't provide. Minsan kahit isa lang ang anak mo hindi mo pa rin naibibigay sakanya lahat hindi required pero, syempre we always want what's best for our kids for sure. My point is always check pros & cons before conceiving again & again.
Magbasa paako planning for 1 child lang sana kasi sobrang hirap ng buhay at gusto ko na ulit mag work,pero after 5 years ito nabuntis ulit, honestly d ako handa, at takot na din ako kasi 38 na ako turning 39,, pero ang pinaka masaya at pinaka excited sa lahat ang panganay ko 5y/o from the time na nalaman niya namay baby ako ang dami niyang plano para sa kapatid niya, sobrang saya niya,kaya kung financially at mentally, physically capable naman 2kids ay ok na, share ko lang po.
Magbasa pa@Anonymous aww! thanks for sharing po. i see from your experience na napapalitan agad ng excitement ang kaba/takot pag nakita mo na sa mukha ng baby mo yung saya nya na may kapatid na siya π₯°
We also decided not to have more than one child before, kasi need ko magwork para mas mameet namin needs ni baby. ayaw ko kasi ng hindi ako nag aalaga. kaso we'll never know talaga what will happen tomorrow π nagkababy number 2 kami agad after 1 year and 6 months π so ayun, delayed ulit ang plan ko na magwork. Gusto sana namin 1 lang para mameet talaga namin lahat ng needs at mas tutok, pero baka iba ang gusto ni Lord. Baka may iba siyang plan. I have to trust Him. βΊοΈ
Magbasa paMy aunt only had 1 baby para daw maibigay nya lahat ng gusto at luho and para daw lahat ng pagmamahal sa nag iisang anak lang lalo at silang mag kakapatid 6 and iniwan sila ng tatay nila, pero sa di inaasahang pang yayari naaksidente anak nya, dalaga na mga 25 ata yun sa USA sila nka tira, ngayon nagbsisisi sya kasi wala na daw sya anak and wala kwenta yung yaman nya kasi walang kukuha pag namatay sya
Magbasa paFinancial reasons po. I would rather give my child QUALITY living kesa parang ispread out too thinly ang finances namin sa maraming anak and macompromise yung quality ng buhay. Also aminin natin hindi na ganon kastable ang jobs nowadays. Having one child only gives us the extra finances to save up for emergencies like: hospitalizations, sirang appliances, repair ng damage sa bahay etc.
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